tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21538597.post553698436240536041..comments2023-12-18T16:57:20.274+02:00Comments on Isramom: Stay OUT of my hair!Risa Tzoharhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05012097234847651866noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21538597.post-54438190504581259422010-10-18T23:12:02.713+02:002010-10-18T23:12:02.713+02:00I used to walk back and forth through Mea Shearim ...I used to walk back and forth through Mea Shearim every day when I lived just beyond it's limits. This was in the days of red banning, bleach throwing and store burning just a few years ago. We're religious but it always made me uncomfortable. But then my all time favorite pashkevil appeared. <br /><br />It described a novel way for men to travel abroad and blend seamlessly with the secular world by simply sending a hair sample and having "kippa pe'ar" created to match natural hair color and texture. Reading to the end you arrive at the punchline "Sounds odd? Why is your wife wearing a wig." Humor in Halachik debate? Love it. <br /><br />What a woman decides to do with her hair is her own business.Sarahttp://www.SaraInAkko.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21538597.post-77518433762171680712010-10-18T00:14:59.951+02:002010-10-18T00:14:59.951+02:00Yeah Shimshonit, that's the idea!Yeah Shimshonit, that's the idea!Risa Tzoharhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05012097234847651866noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21538597.post-730912786113221912010-10-17T18:56:08.708+02:002010-10-17T18:56:08.708+02:00Such a quintessentially Israeli experience: someon...Such a quintessentially Israeli experience: someone comes up to you and without knowing you or your hashkafa (religious, parenting, whatever) proceeds to tell you they know better than you do what's best for you. It shouldn't push my buttons but it does. <br /><br />In a similar vein, my husband and I were at the zoo with our two kids and 15 minutes before closing time, when we were across the zoo from the exit, a haredi man came up to us and asked my husband if he would help make a mincha minyan. He was unfazed that the zoo was trying to close, and that we had four small children to shepherd out of the park, and when my husband looked at me to see what I thought, the haredi man looked and him and said, "You have to ask HER?"<br /><br />Perhaps part of Hashem's plan for me is to challenge me to get over that annoyance.Shimshonithttp://www.shimshonit.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21538597.post-54158975622118052442010-10-14T22:49:45.491+02:002010-10-14T22:49:45.491+02:00Sigh. He, no doubt, thinks he's a great do-go...Sigh. He, no doubt, thinks he's a great do-gooder who is just being mekarev people.Bailahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14115498582378133552noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21538597.post-7042253506031963862010-10-14T20:15:23.421+02:002010-10-14T20:15:23.421+02:00Eli,
Looking forward to seeing you in Eretz Yisra...Eli, <br />Looking forward to seeing you in Eretz Yisrael. I certainly hope this doesn't happen to you. It's not like it happens every day. I've been here 43 years!Risa Tzoharhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05012097234847651866noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21538597.post-19544949790747661802010-10-14T20:09:21.528+02:002010-10-14T20:09:21.528+02:00All I can say is UGH! I have a sheitl - a fall re...All I can say is UGH! I have a sheitl - a fall really - and I like it and everything but I prefer tiechels to anything else these days. Can't WAIT until someone does that to DH when we're in EY!Elihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01084332080364826085noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21538597.post-75444441535919264582010-10-14T18:57:50.672+02:002010-10-14T18:57:50.672+02:00Ima2seven,
I really like that one!Ima2seven, <br />I really like that one!Risa Tzoharhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05012097234847651866noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21538597.post-68930202097788489222010-10-14T18:34:32.140+02:002010-10-14T18:34:32.140+02:00Great post! What about this overlying, general pri...Great post! What about this overlying, general principle of "aseh l'cha rav". "This is the psak we receive from our rabbi" should be the beginning and end of such a conversation. We are all supposed to have a Rav we trust give us our psak and stick with it, right? <br /><br />My Rav, in addressing the common practice of sheitels, once observed that women are not encouraged to wear shirts that look just like their bodies do underneath, right?Ima2sevenhttp://www.ima2seven.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21538597.post-31384476738285010202010-10-14T17:07:31.144+02:002010-10-14T17:07:31.144+02:00Batya,
Full disclosure: (you might even remember)...Batya, <br />Full disclosure: (you might even remember) I bought a wig around the time my eldest was bar mitzvah & I did wear it. It looked great (like my passport picture that I took when I was 18 only I was 40) but I was never 'comfortable' with the idea of it actually being a hair covering. <br />Jennifer, <br />Yes, my DH continued the discussion and in the end I think they 'agreed' to disagree.Risa Tzoharhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05012097234847651866noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21538597.post-5098073286615471032010-10-14T16:58:23.262+02:002010-10-14T16:58:23.262+02:00Definite lack of derech eretz.
You're lucky ...Definite lack of derech eretz. <br />You're lucky your dh could defend your choices - or perhaps I am that my dh couldn't. As a relatively unlearned but polite person (he's Canadian!), he'd probably just thank the rude guy for his "advice," or tell him it was very interesting, and move on. I admire his ability to not get embroiled in things, and to let them go once they're over... :-)))Jennifer in MamaLandhttp://ronypony.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21538597.post-7418513505157805772010-10-14T14:17:21.779+02:002010-10-14T14:17:21.779+02:00MII,
It took me a while to calm down after it hap...MII, <br />It took me a while to calm down after it happened, although being busy helped me get over it.<br />I wanted to write about it (scribbletherapy?) and when your post came up it just seemed like the perfect time!Risa Tzoharhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05012097234847651866noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21538597.post-90137599328600984422010-10-14T14:15:59.830+02:002010-10-14T14:15:59.830+02:00I guess the quack never heard of derech eretz nor ...I guess the quack never heard of derech eretz nor has any idea of the actual history of the halachot of covering hair. Wigs are far inferior halachikly. The controversy is an old one. I'm named after my paternal (x2, father's father's mother) great-grandmother who vowed to her father that she'd only cover her hair with a scarf/hat, never a wig. After his death and the family's decision to emigrate from Poland to NY, a special Beit Din was called which decided that my great-great grandfather would agree that NY is different. With every ounce of my being I have no doubt that he wouldn't have changed his mind.Batyahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09402874037427009327noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21538597.post-19984283013821729922010-10-14T13:20:43.352+02:002010-10-14T13:20:43.352+02:00I guess he had a hard time finding a woman with a ...I guess he had a hard time finding a woman with a wig that he could pick on. Wrong neighborhood. It's actually pretty funny on some level. :(mother in israelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13715046177293916034noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21538597.post-60108104043894420532010-10-14T13:10:31.495+02:002010-10-14T13:10:31.495+02:00sorry- it's a new world goldie
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amerbrosorry- it's a new world goldie<br />kt<br />amerbroAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21538597.post-56253189379158899202010-10-14T10:31:03.883+02:002010-10-14T10:31:03.883+02:00Rahel,
He wasn't even talking to ME!Rahel, <br />He wasn't even talking to ME!Risa Tzoharhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05012097234847651866noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21538597.post-3772503735701184302010-10-14T10:26:02.936+02:002010-10-14T10:26:02.936+02:00I wish I'd been there. I would have looked the...I wish I'd been there. I would have looked the guy straight in the eye and told him: "Stop playing your stupid power games with me, and mind your own business!"Rahel Jaskowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05626844724417933492noreply@blogger.com